Restore

In some families, 'please' is described as the magic word. In our house, however, it was 'sorry'. - Margaret Laurence

Family: A social unit where the father is concerned with parking space, the children with outer space, and the mother with closet space. -  Evan Esar

Every family has it's own problems. Sounds familiar? Commitment to get along with members of your family is the best solution to these problems. Nothing could tear your family apart if the family works together to perserve the harmony amongst yourselves. Sounds sarcastic? Give in, take a step back and all's well. Sounds unreal? From what I can tell, every family has it's own problems. It's rather true. There're different types of problems each family faces, some face more problems, others less, but all face problems. It could be financial, communication, perception, conflicting views on certain stuff, pressure on children and so on. I have a classmate who is rather introverted and quiet in my class, considering that my class is very bonded and we can communicate and approach one another very easily. He's been really troubled and sickly recently. Out of concern, the boys in our class (every boy. That includes me.) asked him about his troubles and worries, wanting to help him. He opened up and said that his parents are top students and his sister is too a top scholar, and that his parents are giving him too much pressure as they always compare him and his sister. He can hardly cope with his work now and we (the guys in the class) are trying to help him in his studies now. Sounds familiar? Or did it happen to you? When parents compare you and your sibling(s), and gives you pressure... I doubt I myself can withstand that kind of pressure for a long period of time and still maintaining good grades. There's one kind of family problems. There're a few examples too. Maybe having a hardcore gambler as either of your parents or both? Perhaps alcoholic instead? Parents that are not understanding and somehow always think that they are correct? Parents that does not spend much time with kids due to work? Enough about parents, how about siblings? A siblings that always bully you and in the end, you're the one getting scolded and he/she is unscathed? A sibling that always fights with you over stuff? A sibling that treats you as a nuisance to them. Or maybe there's problems with both parents and siblings. Or maybe even YOU are the problem. I have witnessed torn-apart families, families that may exist in name but not in reality, families that don't act like families. And I've seen people cursing about their families due to the serious problems they face. I've also seen people being affected due to family problems that is left unresolved. Deep down people hearts, there may be deep wounds in each of their hearts that cannot be thoroughly erased although it may heal over time. Whenever you have a conflict with your family members or problems whatsoever, never turn it into a real fight. Think before you make any action that may be rendered reckless. Coz' it may tear apart families. And those who have broken relationship with any of your family members, restore it. Maybe try by treating them better or perhaps forgive them. I'd hate to see yet another family being tear apart. You may say that you're unlucky to have such a mother, father, sibling(s) or whatever. But you are born into the family. It's your responsibility to prevent the family from falling apart. Every family member is a pillar to hold the family from falling. That includes you. Make an effort to restore any bitter relaionships and broken family ties.