Reconcile

Reconciliation is to understand both sides; to go to one side and describe the suffering being endured by the other side, then go to the other side and describe the suffering being endured by the first side.


Quarrels often occur among family, friends and colleagues at work. We all know that. I seriously doubt that there's no one that has not quarrelled (not counting babies and toddlers) with someone else even once. There are infinite reasons for the quarrels people have with one another. Being extremely rude, having a different point of view, getting irritated or seriously annoyed, getting left out by a particular group and so on. I said there are infinite reasons so I'm obviously not gonna state everything out. When's the last time you quarrel with someone and after everything that had happened between you and that person, and when you think about it, will you feel silly and stupid for quarrelling with that person because the reason for quarrelling is very stupid when you realised it? A lot of people feel that way after some heated argument with a friend or a family member. However, in every quarrel that has brought things too far, the people involved has to reconcile with each other. We will have to sit down and talk things over so that both parties will understand each other, realise their faults on the matter and make corrections so that similar events will not occur once more, keeping their friendship or family ties alive. And of course', apologies are definitely necessary. However, there are people who does not seek reconciliation. These people who don't seek reconciliation probably have their own reasons. I have a friend who quarrelled with another friend of mine, and they did not really speak or communicate with each other any more ever since their quarrel. These two were best of pals in the past, when they are both the clowns of my class. But ever since that incident, they don't associate with each other any more. When the "Brotherhood" (a.k.a my clique) goes out to have lunch, only one of them will be present with the other absent. Now, even as we plan to create a event, one did not want the other to be present. It's obvious that he wanted a fun experience of the rest of us together and did not wish for the other to be present and make things awkward or spoil the fun. This may actually seem to be a valid reason for him, but I feel that it's best to reconcile with someone you quarrelled with, so as to mend the broken ties and continue to have a fun time together. You will have to try to understand each other, and be in the other's shoes to realise what you might have done to hurt or angered him/her. Also, I must say that there will be people who you will not want to reconcile with or associate with any more, maybe due to his/her personality or habits which you either very dislike or find it difficult to accept, or he/she did something terrible to you or someone you care about. Well, that will be another case. But don't make that an excuse to not reconcile with anyone though.